The Essence of Love
Love can feel like many things all at once. Love can come unexpectedly—whether it’s at the moment you discover something new or over an extended, ripening period of time. The moment of realization can be surprising. Warm. Delightful. Maybe even a little scary.
“The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.” — Unknown
From the dictionary: love, noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
Synonyms for love: tenderness, fondness, predilection, warmth, passion, adoration, affection (a fondness for others that is enduring and tender, but calm), devotion (an intense love and steadfast, enduring loyalty), like, inclination, regard, friendliness, adore, adulate, worship.
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more.” — Unknown
I have witnessed many levels of love over the years. Love that you feel for another is unique, individual and can never be replicated. It is always special in its own form. Our idea of love starts when we are born and continues as we feel connected to others. Sometimes this is not pretty, and it takes more life experience to grow into a broader idea of what love can be. When you listen to your inner wisdom, what you feel inside will guide you to what is right for you.
Sometimes love is temporary, bringing a burst of joy or creativity to life. It fills a need at the right time—it can be as simple as a smile that reminds you of all that is good. It can be a look that says “it’s okay. Everything will be alright.” Love can be having someone by your side as you navigate life challenges and changes, or someone who goes out of their way just to make a difference in your day. Love is also expressed with patience, understanding and support. Giving space to another to let them find their way or asking for space so you can find yours is love. Love inspires you to put others first because the joy you feel when this is reflected back is vibrant, satisfying.
You experience love when another is unselfish, considerate, thoughtful, kind or compassionate. It doesn’t mean you will spend eternity together, but it does mean you will grow in unexpected ways each time love is expressed.
Remember to love yourself. Love is reflected in love. Honor yourself by showing up for you. Make time for yourself, make a date with yourself—to do things that make you feel good or lifted up. You don’t need another person to make you feel complete. You have all you need within you to love and be loved.
“Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.” — Unknown
Love can also last a lifetime. Love can transform, morph or deepen with someone as you share a life path together. We learn from each other when we are open, honest and committed to another. It is a privilege to co-create and co-exist. It is the best way to foster a deeper connection within ourselves.
Celebrate your relationship with others—whether it’s just a moment in time or a lifetime—and celebrate yourself as you allow all the teachers (anyone you learn something from) to reveal who you are—the very essence of love.
“You’ll never be too much for someone who can’t get enough of you.” — Unknown